As a woman we have the tendency to talk...A LOT and A lot more than guys.For instance it would be strange if 3 or 4 women were sitting around not talking but not so strange if 3 or 4 guys were sitting around not talking. Why is that? Because God made us differently! With Women Conversation is the very cornerstone of friendships with our Gal Pals. With Guys the opposite is true, their bonds are formed with less talking and more doing things together and share experiences.
Women are normally better communicators in a lot of ways(body language, picking up on non verbal cues and expressing thoughts) However as women we must watch how we use these gifts that God has given us as women. There are dangers we can fall into with our speech...I will list just two for now.
The first danger that we can fall into is talking too much. You might ask What? How could this possibly be dangerous? I don't get it. Well let me remind you of Proverbs 10:19 which says...
"When words are many,transgression is not lacking,But whoever restrains his(or her) lips is prudent"
So this tells us that talking to much is foolish and leads to sin...I know what you are thinking Talking is DEFINITELY NOT sin! Ugh. True you are right about that but too much talking can be! Wanna know how? How about Gossip? Insincere Compliments and flattery? being manipulative and deceitful in what you say? Those are all sins and when you just talk and talk and talk without really stopping to think what you are saying and how it effects people around you. You are in danger of falling into these traps...Into these sins. Watch out! Take heed!
The second danger I just briefly want to hit on is the danger of Flirting, smooth talk and playing with a guy emotionally...Girls...This is SOOO dangerous. This is what the Bible says about the Girl gone Wild...
"with much seductive speech she persuades him;With her smooth talk she compels him." (proverbs 7:21)'
Girls, Lets be careful how we use our speech. Lets face it we can talk circles around guys and we can talk really smoothly and be good at persuading...But is that what we want? More importantly is that what God wants? NO! We should not be striving not to lure guys (besides if we are trying to be pure as we should be than we have nothing to offer them anyway) we should be encouraging our Christian brothers yet keeping a reasonable distance and careful not to say things that should not be spoken in mixed company.
So I leave you tonight with a challenge, Ladies...Evaluate your speech. Ask yourselves these questions and then do something about them.
Are the things I am saying God honoring?
What are the motives behind my speech in general?
What are my motives in talking to guys the way I do? am I pleasing God? Am I possibly causing a brother to stumble? If I am possibly causing a brother to stumble what can I do differently so I will not do that in the future?
What can I do differently in the area of my speech that will be more God honoring?
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